I've done both, gay when I was 15, pagan about 5 years ago in a more dramatic fashion (never denied it). There were lessons from coming out as a gay man that in some way relate to coming out pagan. Here are the things I think are relevant to both.
1. Do it on your own terms, in your own time. This is the most important thing I can say. It’s your life, you have to live it. Don’t force it. When you’re ready you’ll know.
2. If you want a big dramatic statement. Make one, if you want a slow spread of information, do it. Be aware that both have their upsides and downsides.
3. Know that you’re going to spend the rest of your life coming out over and over again. This is a harsh truth, but a good one to be aware of.
4. If your friends/family distance themselves from you: YOU ARE NOT ALONE. There are people out there who will be your support, who will love you for exactly who you are, not who they try and demand you to be.
5. Be proud of who you are, but don’t hang your entire identity on one thing. Be well rounded. Besides being more healthy for you in the long run, having a variety of experiences and interests makes you sexy.
6. You define what being you means, don’t let stereotypes, the media, or other people’s expectations make you something you’re not.
Any others any of you would like to add please comment. I’m trying to compile a list of worth while information.
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